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What Do You Look For In A Hair Care Product…Business Ownership!

12 Mar

Hello WordPress! Its been a while yet again…but I’m back!! Since I last blogged I have switched jobs again! Go figure. I HATE working for someone else! I have been saying this for a long time and now I mean it more than ever! I was working for “the hotel” well now I can tell you the name, because I no longer work there. The name of the hotel that I was working for was the Omni! I was there for almost 8 months, however the entire hotel’s staff was FIRED!! Without any notice of any sort, on 01/17/13  midnight the entire hotel was let go by our then employer, Economos Properties. On 01/18/13 the new owner took over, which was an Indian family and the take over was far from smooth. I was very unprofessional to say the least…but enough about that awful place, the awful people, and their bad business ethics.

That whole situation brings me here, wanting to start my own business!!! I have  been wanting to be my own boss for the longest time now, since I hate working for someone else. There are too many variables that can dictate your finances and future. I am tired of being a slave to the system!

Over the years I have been trying to figure out exactly what I want to do with myself, since I loath working for companies, private owned businesses and everything in between. I have thought of it all, in terms of what business I wanted to start. While I was watching television one day I saw a TV segment on a hair care product from a young girl and the product was called, Eden Body Works and it hit me! I need to be working on hair care and put what I already know to use. I am a licensed cosmetologist in the state of Virginia, and I have been since 08/2005. I have went natural and went back to the creamy crack and went natural again. However this time around I have new found motivation; I want to put together a product that will be good for the consumer as well as for my hair. I would love to make my hair more manageable since I have went natural. With me creating a hair care line I get to put my cosmetology license to use, help myself with my natural hair transition, and start my own business all at the same time! This seems like a brilliant idea! I am so excited, and I have so much more to come.

Since doing all of this, I am in the mix of developing a formula and at this point I know what I want to put in my products however I need some help! I am wanting to know what people are looking for in a hair care product. What is important to you? I have created a short survey to kind of narrow it down, to pinpoint what people are looking for in terms of a hair care product. The survey is for my marketing and research portion of my hair care product as well as just basic insight for myself. I am trying to reach as many people as possible, who are willing to take the survey. I look forward to your feedback and help. With this information I can give you, the consumer exactly what you are looking for! Thank you in advance for your participation it is greatly appreciated! With your help and the grace of God , my business will take flight and me working for someone will be a thing of the past. Here is my survey, http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/ZVFVXQQ Once again thanks love!


Cooperate World or Discrimination?

9 Aug

Since I wanted to start blogging again, I have sort of planned out what I wanted to blog about. However when I got to work today, my unpublished blog for today would have to wait until tomorrow. Another blog was already in the making.

I have been working at a hotel for about a month now, and I work at the front desk. When I got the job I already knew that I would have to keep my hair done. I knew that I couldn’t just walk out of the house looking like a rag-a-muffin! To make it even more difficult in terms of my hair, I have gone natural. Well at least for a little while. I haven’t put a chemical relaxer in my hair in about 7 months, if not longer. When I first started working at “the hotel” I wore weaves, because it is convenient, I wanted to look nice, and I knew the hotel in which I work was not going to allow me to be “natural”. I talk to a lot of guest who have natural hair styles, and most if not all tell me, “You should just wear your natural hair, in an afro”. Not something that I am interested in doing at all! And not something that “the hotel” would accept. I went natural because I want healthy hair, not because I am into natural styles. I want my hair to be straight but healthy. Not healthy and nappy. What makes it worse is I have my cosmetology license, but I am so use to having a relaxer that I don’t know how to manage natural hair styles. At this point I need my creamy crack! Chemical hair relaxers are my drug of choice! After about 3 weeks of weaves, I decided to let my hair breath for a week or so. I did my hair in some small flat twist going to the side with tiny rods. I thought it looked dry but it was cute. No problem there. I heard no complaints at work, in fact I got lots of compliments! Once my curls started to fall I braided my hair and took it a loose. My hair was wavy as well as curly. It was very cute! I got compliments on this style too. Too bad “the hotel” well at least my supervisor didn’t think so.

When I got to work this morning, my immediate supervisor said, “Oh Porschea what’s going on with your hair”? In response I said, “Nothing. What’s wrong with it? I like it”. Everything else goes downhill from there. I asked how am I suppose to wear my hair then. My supervisor told me, “Down and straight or pulled back”. How discriminatory! I was burning mad which is an understatement! We went back and forth about the situation and I was told that working in a cooperate environment you have to conform. How fucked up is that! First off I don’t think that I work in a cooperate environment. I work in hospitality for the moment, at a three and a half star hotel. I am a front desk agent, not a CEO of a company or the CEO of “the hotel”. I have a huge mouth so I keep saying things back. Like, “This is messed up…I don’t put chemicals in my hair, so its not going to be straight…what do you want me too look like a white women…I should have known…this is discriminatory. And to top it all off my supervisor is black! He did tell me that he would rather tell me then someone else say something to me about my hair. He also referred me to the handbook. As a black women I took offense to the entire conversation. My supervisor attempted to show that he cared about the situation but I felt it was phony. The damage had already been done.

I had already read the handbook prior, but I didn’t recall anything in the handbook about hair being straight, down, and pulled back. I did remember that females could not wear bright colored nail polish, nail designs; nothing other then neutral toned nail polish colors. But amazing enough I had on bright nail polish! I was wearing Jade Jump by Sally Hansen. To be exact I painted my nails in the staff bathroom that morning before my shift, because I got to work early. But nothing was said about my nails, only my hair and I couldn’t wear the style that I had up in “the hotel“.

While at work I got a copy of the handbook and nowhere does it say that the hair is suppose to be straight, down, or pinned back. I did however read, “Please understand that you are expected to dress and groom yourself in accordance with accepted social and business standards“. However no one has explained to me what “social and business standards” are. But since I have read the handbook again I am definitely gonna ask. If my supervisor was still at work I would have asked today. The handbook then states, “Hair must present a natural color and professional style”. However it was never explained as to what a “professional style” is. I will be asking about this as well. While typing this blog, I texted my supervisor to let him know that I read the handbook and the straight hair, down, and pinned back statement was not in there. I then asked him so who really told you to tell me that? I still haven’t heard a response, and I am off tomorrow. I doubt if I will hear back from him. I will have to talk to him in person. I guess the follow up to this confrontation will be blogged about another day. Until then give me your thoughts. Do you think that my supervisor was right with the statements that he made about me having to wear my hair straight, down and pinned up? Were they discriminatory? Or should I have known better then to wear waves and curls to “the hotel”? Give me your feedback because I would love to hear from you. I need some serious insight on this issue!

A’Janaya Started School And We Didn’t Cry

16 Aug

I am still tired out of my wits. I could not go to sleep last night. I was up watching movies. The Last House On The Left was good, but disturbing, I washed dishes, cleaned the stove top, and swept the kitchen. After that I attempted to watch yet another movie. I guess I was so excited about A’Janaya starting school today. It was almost like I was going to school.

I fell asleep around 3:44 that was the last time I remember seeing on the clock. When the alarm went off at 6, I could barely open my eyes. I said, “A’Janaya get up, its time to get ready for school”. She got up after I said this a few times. But once she got up it was still dark outside and she said, “Mama it’s not good morning, it’s not time for school yet”. I thought that was so funny.

I fixed her a bowl of cereal, so she wouldn’t be hungry when she got to school. Now I’m wondering how she did on the bus ride? I hope she didn’t use the bathroom on herself, I asked her before the bus came and she said, “no I don’t have to go”. She is potty trained but every time you go somewhere she has to go to the bathroom! I guess I am worrying because I am a mom. And not just any mom. I am A’Janaya’s mom!

Yesterday I thought very hard of any and everything that she needed in her book bag. I didn’t want to forget anything. I was unaware that you could have brought your child’s school supplys to open house, but that was kind of common sense, even though I didn’t take them. So therefore her book bag was kind of heavy, she almost tipped over! In between trying to get A’Janaya ready and prepped for school today I was dealing with a whiney 2 year old who wasn’t mine, yesterday. I had Bri the weekend too. She is a sweet heart though, I love Bri as if she were A’Janaya. I had to give A’Janaya a bath so I could wash her hair. This is called killing two birds with one stone. I am a licensed cosmetologist, but I HATE doing A’Janaya’s hair! I don’t put any chemicals in it. No relaxers in her hair, but I am so tempted now that I have to do her hair every week. But I am going to stand my ground. But the process that I have to go through is painful! I have to take her old hair style out, wash her hair, plat her hair immediately; or it will nap up and be undoable untill I wash it again, take the plats out one by one and blow dry then, flat iron, then style however. She has gotten better during all of this. She doesn’t cry anymore. But yesterday I got very frustrated while putting beads on the braids. Her father and I had previously talked about me doing her hair once a week on the weekends. I would do one color and pick outfits for the whole week to match accordingly. But oh no, he didn’t want her to wear flip flops the first day or an outfit from Wal-Mart. He was “trippin”. At first I had blue, white, and clear beads on her hair, then blue, clear and black, finally we settled on black and clear. AJ was so happy that I listened to him! But I was frustrated as hell. I told him he needs to learn to braid her hair or something.

In spite of me playing switch-a-roo with her beads I couldn’t be happier! A’Janaya started school today and she didn’t cry, nor did I. Of course AJ wasn’t gonna cry. All he kept saying when I said I was gonna cry is, “It’s not like you didn’t know this day was coming”. He sounds like the toy off of Toy Story 3. I consider A’Janaya starting school as a mile stone something like walking for the first time. And the first day of school is a mile stone. She will never start school for the first time ever again. I just can’t help but smile, oh and wait for the bus this afternoon. I can’t wait to hear about her day!!! I’m sure there will be lots to tell. Untill then our dog Baby Girl is walking around looking so sad. All she can do is lick her paws, she misses A’Janaya just as much as we do! Even thought AJ won’t admit it. He’s such as man!

Compromising With A 3 Year Old

7 Jun

Every Morning I Wake Up

Every morning that I awake, my daughter usually follows, awaking a little while after me. When this happens the war with a 3-year-old begins. I ask her,

What do you want for breakfast? She usually states no breakfast, juice.Sometimes she even wants a snack, but still no breakfast. After I give her a firm NO juice before breakfast, she usually will yell cartoons.

It is a never ending cycle. She demands items I am unwilling to give her. So most mornings are a struggle to say the least. When I do fix her something to eat, and she sits down; she tries to hide the plate. It is so funny because most of the time she hides the plate in plain sight. If that doesn’t work, she knows that one of our animals; dogs will be more than happy to make the food disappear literally.

If we are not fighting over what to eat we are fussing and fighting over what to put on or if she will get a bath and her hair washed. She is only 3 and, already she is quite the little slickster. Before hoping on my computer to blog,

I told her she was going to have to get her hair washed; since I was taking her braids a loose. She said no, Mama I don’t want my hair washed. I’m gonna cry.

So she already has it made up in her mind that since she doesn’t want her hair washed she is going to cry. Plans have already started to formulate in the mind of a 3-year-old. Each day I wake up or go to bed thinking about my little extortionist; who is my everything wondering what is she going to demand today? And how can I say no to outrageous demands without being viewed by my baby as the “Bad Lady”. Needles to say she is daddies little Princess. He lets her get her way all of the time, so the her I am the Bad Lady. Never the less each day is a new day with the same ole scenario of trying to compromise with a 3-year-old.